I had a bit of a crisis about 3 years ago, I had a major falling out with the girl i'd been with for 10 years, lost my job, had to move back home at 30..
I was I a pretty misurable place, but it got better, I just woke up one day and thought, 'I realy cant feel any worse about all this' and just tried to take little possitive steps every day..
just tell yourself that it wont be like this forever, and make sure you do loads of stuff to take your mind off it, but not ignor whats getting you down, if you just run away from it, it will follow you. get your head around it, and get a plan together.
if its relationship stuff, be nice to everone, and dont be dishonest, or nasty because it will come back to bite you, if you've behaved properly at least you have the moral high ground.
i think relationships are one of the hardest challenges that life throws in front of us...
if you are depressed, take it seriously and do something about it, depression is a illness, just like any other, it can be managed and often eradicated if you take the right steps and get some help.... i've suffered a little with depression before (still do sometimes) and it can be made better...
what worked for me was going to university. it was big step, walking back into 'school' at 31, but it took up loads of my time, made me meet new people, and gave me something positive to do, which i could throw lots of energy at.
i guess it worked, because in june this year i got a first! and am starting a new job on monday...
...a chance meeting with the 'ex' almost a year after i had previously set eyes on her, and after we'd both been in other failed relationships, saw us bury the past... and she's now pregnant, and we're getting married next august.
Smo, don't under estimate what a change of scenery can do for you, if you are stuck in a house thats full of memories, get out, and get away, go and stay with a mate for the weekend, go for a weekend away..
even if you are skint, a weekend at a mates, with your phone turned off, will do wonders....
oh, and don't be one of those people who never gets away, work is a means to an end, if its any different, then step back and look at what you might be missing... theres a big world out there, and its a bit sad if you miss it all... just to do one more job, or just to get a project finished.
good luck Smo, look after yourself, go out with your friends, talk to everyone, get a plan together, and life will sort itself out.
