For the money I don't think you can beat a merc ML - Cheapest, very high spec, 3.5 tonne tow limit, bullet proof engine, and if it's for the misuses, quite soft styling.
If not, I'd shortlist X5 or a VW Toureg.
If fuel isn't an issue, a Porsche Cayenne or a range rover 3.
All can be had well within your budget and the ML / X5 / VW will all give you a real 30 to the gallon. You'll not get a diesel Cayenne, but my god they are nice inside, and the rr3, you'll get a td6 diesel for that money and it'll give you 22 - 24 mpg.
Spending that amount of money, I wouldn't touch all the honda, freelander, mitsi [!Expletive Deleted!]. Money lost on depreciation will never been seen again. Buy prestige and let someone else have the hit. Sell again in 3 - 4 years for the same money and move to the next one.